K.T., 2007

I've just finished a 120 hours NVC Facilitators Training, together with I A, my Arabic friend and colleague. I would like to share with you my experience and to express my gratitude for giving me the opportunity to go through such a meaningful process.

We were a group of 12 people in the course, coming from Arabic, Jewish and Christian background. Apart from Israelis, there were participants from Switzerland, France and Turkey, all of which came to work for humanitarian organizations in the Middle East. Hagit Lifshitz, our trainer and group facilitator, learned NVC directly from Marshal Rosenberg, while he used to come and work in Israel. She is teaching and practicing NVC in group facilitation, conflict resolution and mediation for over 20 years.

We've made a journey right from the basic skills of NVC, through sharing and working on our personal questions, up to facilitating groups. We've made an individual as well as a group work, leaving a space for each of us to compassionately explore NVC and him/herself, as deep as he or she were ready for.

Looking back over the last 4 months, I can observe the process I've been through. It has been a life changing experience for me to move from judging to bringing compassion; from criticizing to accepting; from telling to listening; from thinking to feeling; from demanding to wishing; from separation to connection. It has been a revelation for me to look at us, human beings, from our common ground of needs, and to be aware and precise of the feelings which raise up in us once our needs are not been met. It has been a relief to experience the healing potential of compassionate listening, and the power of unconditional love. It expended my vessel to contain the anger we are living with, and tools to direct my power to work with people, rather than using it over other human beings.

I have finished the NVC training with hope to incorporate my experience and understanding into my work with Arabs, Palestinians and Jews in the Middle East. I plan to offer them the NVC as a fourth language, as a tool for positive, heart based communication which can contribute to our well being, and maybe, maybe, create a change in our region.

I would like to express my desire to deepen my connection with NVC, and to keep it alive in order to be able to fully implement it in my work and private life. I wish we could get a grant to send 4 people from the Middle East, 2 Arabs and 2 Jewish, to one of the International Intensive Trainings in NVC, which take place several times a year in different locations in the world.

I would also like to share with you a poem by Rumi, which express my experience of NVC.

Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing
there is a field. I'll meet you there.

When the soul lies down in that grass,
the world is too full to talk about.
Ideas, language, even the phrase each other
doesn't make any sense.

K.T., 2007